Monday, February 9, 2009

general respect

One thing that really pisses me off is when I am having a general conversation, or getting to know someone in a vanilla sense and that person is just generally rude and disrespectful. I try my damnedest to be nice, respectful and humorous when having a conversation with someone. Just this past weekend a female friend of mine who I do lust after in a vanilla way came up to me at the party we were at and told me how nice I am to her. She knows I lust for her, but I am nice and respectful to her. Always asking how she, her husband and children are doing. How is her day etc. That was a huge compliment to me, just to have someone tell me I am nice and a pleasure to talk with.

My MO when I am getting to know a possible potential new submissive for myself is I want to spend time and get to know them in a vanilla sense. I want to know them for who they are, their day to day life, vanilla side etc before I delve into getting to know them as a submissive. That is a totally different blog for another time. Well, let me tell you about someone recently. I am going to leave her name out of this because she might be reading it in the future. I have made it known I am married, expect honesty, respect others and expect the same in return. Well, we started off chatting, and she tells me after a couple of days of chatting about a "male roommate" So thinking he is a roommate we are just chatting away and I find out they share a bed. So I ask, is he a roomy or your boyfriend.... I wont bore you with specifics or detail, but it turns out he is her boyfriend, but vanilla. Dishonesty at its finest here. So I give her the benefit of the doubt, and move on. Then she speaks in a vulgar manner to me.... She tells me to fuck off, but she claims she only means it in a humorous sense. Damn, disrespectful at its finest. When we first started talking, I thought she would enjoy reading my blog, since so many of you compliment me about it. So I link her to it. "I will read it tonight" Well, tonight was sometime ago. I asked again, "I will read it this weekend" Well, I asked this morning, and guess what? She didn't read it. See a pattern developing here? She mentions she is a lazy ass and I said, I already knew that, learned that from your actions. She tells me she will read it later and I respond "no, you keep saying later, just tells me a lot about you" Her response is, and I quote "No it doesn't tell you shit"

I am not going to go any further with this conversation, I think I am getting my point across. Needless to say, I am a nice, forgiving guy so I am giving her one more chance? I should just walk away, but I believe in second and third chances. Anyhow, we will see what happens.

My final thought is this, treat others the way you want to be treated. You will get more bees with honey. I have always been nice to others. If you choose to not be nice, that's your right. I wont judge or hold it against you. We just wont be spending much time together. Again, always be honest, say what you mean and mean what you say. As Granddad told me, "A lie makes a problem for you in the future, but the truth will make a lie a problem of the past."

I will inflict the pain, but I will kiss away the tears.

1 comment:

Skye said...

The definition of respect is different for different people, but there are some constants, like the golden rule. Also, if someone has told you they find something disrespectful, then that needs to be honored and avoided in the future.